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What does it mean to put your own needs first?

What does it mean to put your own needs first?

How often are you told as a mum to put yourself first, do something for yourself, take a break. What does that actually fucking mean? How often, where, when, with or without kids? I want to, but I don’t have the money or the time! I don’t have a baby sitter, hubby is at work, I have no one to do anything with! I’m to scared, I’ll have a panic attack, everyone will judge me, my kids will play up, no one can get the kids to bed but me, who will cook dinner, what if they miss me etc etc etc.

Reflux & Strong Will - Mouse's First 6 Months

Reflux & Strong Will - Mouse's First 6 Months

From the moment my milk came in I knew we were again dealing with Reflux (my older daughter had it too). She would become upset, irritable, arching her back, vomiting, windy etc after every feed!

Are you raising a strong willed child?

Are you raising a strong willed child?

Strong - To have the power to move heavy weights, a great force, powerful or difficult to defeat, powerfully affecting mind, senses and emotions, extreme, especially excessive, able to withstand force or pressure, very intense!

Willed - To have a specified level of determination, intense desire or wish, deliberate, try to make someone do something or make something happen by exercising mental powers.

Get the cotton wool - the kids are playing!

Get the cotton wool - the kids are playing!

Our children are so protected these days and a 2019 'childhood' certainly does not resemble my own, but are we taking it too far? Are our kids becoming 'cotton wool kids?" I fear that without the freedom to just 'be kids' we are going to end up with a world full of adults who are less determined, poor goal setters, unconfident and more. 

You are too big to pick up anymore!

You are too big to pick up anymore!

It's that old cliche you hear all the time from people who have been there before you "don't wish it away it goes to quick in the end" and go it does!

Becoming a parent is the best thing ever...... isn't it?

Becoming a parent is the best thing ever...... isn't it?

So, you hear it all the time… ‘becoming a parent was the best thing ever” “it’s the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done” “I can’t imagine my life without my baby” “I’ve never felt so in love” …….. what about when it’s not any of those things. What if parenting looks to you like sadness, guilt, insecurity, worry, anxiety, frustration, grief for your previous life, shame for your feelings, numbness and a lack of vitality…. What if that’s your normal?

Is feminism going a step to far?

Is feminism going a step to far?

I believe myself to be feminist, I am absolutely 100% for equality amongst the sexes. I believe that men and women should be given equal opportunity, equal pay, equal respect. I believe in telling my young girls that if they want to grow up and have careers in male dominated industries then thats fine, go for gold my girls! If my son wants to work in a female dominated industry -GREAT! I value the fight of the ladies before me that have given me the right to vote, the right to be heard and the right to believe and have confidence in myself as a women. 

Is it ever OK to criticise someone else parenting?

Is it ever OK to criticise someone else parenting?

Like most things in life we are all individuals and we are all different and the way in which we parent our children is not immune to this difference. It’s easy to pass judgement on someone else’s parenting or to have an opinion because there’s a high chance that what they are doing isn’t necessarily what you would do. But without being that person, parenting those kids, in their situation are you really entitled to pass judgement, particularly if that judgement is negative?

Just Eat It!

Just Eat It!

Now as a mother the fact that my child wasn’t eating her dinner worried my senseless. I panicked that she would be hungry, malnourished, start waking at night etc etc, if you can think it I worried it. So, because of this I became so upset and obsessed with the fact that she wasn’t eating dinner I started losing sleep as I would be constantly thinking about how I could just get her to eat her god dam dinner! We must have tried EVERYTHING and by everything I really mean everything.

Fill Your Tank

Fill Your Tank

As parents we are constantly giving – we give to our babies, our partners, our friends and family. Some of us still have to work, we volunteer, we run houses, we have pets and some of us are also studying. We are always giving, socially, emotionally, mentally and physically!

New Years Resolutions

New Years Resolutions

So, this morning I’ve spent an hour or so reading many posts from parenting groups and pages, experts and advisors about how to be a better parent in 2018 – New Year’s resolutions for parents so to speak. They listed things like ‘being more present’ ‘less screen time’ ‘less yelling’ ‘more family time’ ‘not saying NO as often’ ‘only modelling positive behaviour’ and the list goes on. And whilst they all sounded great and look like a wonderful way to be a ‘better parent’ I couldn’t help but feel that making those kinds of resolutions or promises to myself is only going to add more and more pressure to this already busy stressed mum. I don’t know about you but I already feel pretty guilty on the days that I yell or let the kids watch far too much TV, imagine how much guiltier I’m going to feel when it happens on January 4th and I haven’t even lasted a week into 2018 without ‘failing’ at my New Year’s resolutions.

How to handle the HOT with kids.

How to handle the HOT with kids.

Well summer is here and the temperature is rising. Sometimes though, as much as we LOVE the hot summer days, they can be hard on our children - particularly our babies.  Our children often struggle to sleep in the heat (as do adults) and can become a little crankier than normal. Here's a few tips from us to you to help you get through those long hot summer days & nights!